It's Not Your Fault

I often worry I've done something wrong. When I read recently that China won't buy U.S. plastic recycling because it's too dirty, my first thought was, "Oh no! That must be me, I never rinse the cat food cans." And when a friend doesn't reply to my email, I think, "Oh no! I must've said something stupid and they're upset with me." In my head, I understand things aren't my fault, and if anyone is angry it's up to them to tell me. But in my heart, I still feel afraid. So, when this fear arises, I listen to it and I don't believe it. I've learned that this feeling isn't related to facts, but rather memories and old habits, and do my best to meet it with kindness rather than irritation. 

If you have an old fear or worry, try this practice that I use when I think I've done something wrong. Find a quiet place, sit down, and take a breath or two. Then notice where you're feeling afraid, put your hand on your heart, and say to yourself, "I hear you and you're safe." Repeat as necessary.